Ever wonder how other people are able to get it all done and still have time for fun? Last week I found three to-do lists buried on my desk. I had finished about half of the things on each list and just reading over everything I had not completed gave me terrible anxiety because I had forgotten half of them even needed to be done. I have always been a list kind of girl and it’s hard for me to rest until I complete all of my tasks. My Taurus personality is obnoxiously responsible! The only problem now that I have a baby and I am also working again is that all of the “stuff” I have to do never gets done. Can anyone relate? I was going completely bonkers for a while trying to keep the house spotless, make healthy dinners every night, go to the grocery store, help nutrition clients and still go to the gym and take care of myself. I sought help from several different sources and now life is starting to feel more manageable. Below are a few things that have helped me face my to-do list head on so I have more time to enjoy what is most important in life.
Make an action list, then prioritize it
Often times we make sloppy lists that get crumbled up in our pockets and sink to the bottom of our purses. When I say we, I really mean I. An action list contains all of the things that are needed to be done like the grocery store and the post office, but instead of just writing grocery store, post office, there is an action word in front. For example, my list says visit grocery store and mail letters at post office. It will say chop vegetables for dinner, rather then just vegetables. Make sense? Having an action word before your task subconsciously puts your body and mind into motion visualizing yourself actually doing this and checking it off. Once your list is completed, go through and prioritize your tasks starting with first most important, second most important and so on. This will save you from spending time on the less important( and less annoying) things on your list and letting the big anxiety inducing to-do’s build up.
Ask yourself why?
Recently I heard Tony Robbins speak on this subject and he said something so genius. He said to think about WHY you want to complete a task rather than WHAT the task actually is. For example, instead of focusing on the groceries you need to get, think about the reason you want to get them, like feeding your family nutritious meals for good health. Maybe you have a headache because you have to go to your accountant but the larger picture is that you are setting yourself up for long term financial freedom. Think of yourself being financially free. This works because not only do you stay focused on the positive but if every little thing doesn’t get crossed off the list you are still visualizing the bigger picture in your head. The reality is, we live in such a busy society these days that nobody’s to-do list is ever completed so don’t believe you are the only one!
Accept your closets might be messy
A few years ago I was working with a wonderful woman named Michelle Bauman who coaches other women on everything from business to relationships. I was feeling overwhelmed at the time trying to keep up with my modeling career and start school again and she said something to me that I always remember. She said she is a wonderful mother, a loving wife and a really great coach and teacher but her closets are a real mess. Twice a year she pays someone to buy her clothes and clean out the closets so they don’t get completely out of control but she has accepted that is something that is just not a priority for her and it’s okay. Since then I have decided it’s not my closet that will be a mess, but it is my laundry room and that’s okay! For some people it’s not actually a place in their house but an activity that isn’t important to them anymore or an unhealthy relationship they no longer choose to engage in. It’s different for everyone but it’s okay to let one thing go.
*BONUS- Richard Branson says his key to productivity is WORKING OUT! Seriously. He claims working out gives him an additional 3 hours of productivity time in his day. If that doesn’t motivate you to get moving I don’t know what will!
(photo by Jessica Polar)